Here’s the situation. I bought tickets back in April to take my fiancée to go see Rent. I have seen the musical; she has not and is very excited to go. Just recently I have been invited to go snowboarding in CO with a good friend with the only expenses being the plane and lift tickets. The thing is that both of these things are going on during the same weekend. While I think Rent is a great show, how many opportunities do you get in this world to go ride 4 days of glorious powder for such little investment?
So I threw it on the table at dinner the other night and she gave me the “I don’t care” that belied her “I really care but I’m trying to be cool” tone that only a woman who has chosen to spend her life with a knucklehead can develop. I feel as though she’d have as much fun, if not more, with one of her girlfriends and that if I don’t go have a day or two of epic riding (I live in WI, the only epic rides here involve being dragged behind a snowmobile) that I’ll sit in the audience at Rent wishing that one of the actors would fall off the stage and make my presence worthwhile.
What should I to do? Remember, we are engaged and most of the deposit checks for the wedding have already cleared so I don’t think she’s backing out. What’s the damage control like on this? A weekend away with her girls? A couple nights of Oprah instead of Adult Swim?
I’ve asked around the office a bit trying to gauge the difference between the married, single, and betrothed. A real sample group, y’know? My hypothesis was that working in a very active/action sports based company like Trek that I’d find plenty who’d be sensitive to my plight. What I have found is that I work with a lot of neutered individuals. Tell me what you think and don't forget to identify your status. I have found that marital status plays a big role in one's decision making process. Which, as a recently engaged male, is completely foreign to me. My future depends on your experience!